Yes, I definitely think it is important to get ‘counseling’ when dealing with marital issues, during and after, but not marriage counseling necessarily, and certainly not divorce recovery. A couple preparing to walk down the aisle together most certainly should experience intensive marriage counseling, the kind that teaches you all about each other as well as God’s plan and purpose for marriage. And, should red flag issues become apparent during marriage counseling, be prayerfully and boldly willing to make the decision to NOT get married. Despite the fact I have shared my standing with different counselors, even preachers and devoted Christian friends, I must admit I continued to struggle to find a perfect fit, a genuine Confidential Encourager. I longed to find someone who:
I could afford
was a good listener
offered valuable insight
knew how to ask thought provoking questions
I felt I could trust
was a devoted Christian
understood the difference between a relationship with God vs being religious
understood the concept of standing
understood prodigals are not just repentant sons
had been married to the same person for many years
encouraged standing vs divorce recovery
focused on God’s perspective of marriage
didn’t use all the psycho babble terms
honestly believed in marriage for life
believed not just in putting our requests before God, but who understood the power behind not just praying, but praying and believing with thanksgiving.
“…do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” Philippians 4:6-7 (ESV).
I longed to find a Confidential Encourager who believed in the sanctity of a God-ordained covenant marriage.
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